From the moment I got certified as an Integrative Health Coach, I got bombarded by messages on how to run my business.
Whether it was the “Fix It in 5 Steps Formula” or the Get Rich Quickly E-course, I was shown only one way to grow my business: Now & Fast.
And this trend continues in my Facebook ad feed till today.
“Do it my way!”
“My formula is guaranteed!”
“No, do it my way!”
Somewhere in all this noise, we have forgotten the grace, the power and the potency of slow, organic growth.
Everyone wants to put a fertilizer on everything.
Well, look at where Round-Up has gotten us these days…
On the outside, it may have looked shiny to be able to grow 10x more wheat for the US, but underneath that “get rich quick” scheme was the underbelly of a health crisis. Leaky Gut, Obesity, Alzheimer’s (the list goes on… just google glyphosate health impact.)
In economics, growing an economy too fast is not manageable. It often leads to inflation and, ultimately, a crash.
Same with your body. If you go on a crash diet or a juice cleanse, you may initially lose the weight but chances are, after going back to your usual routine, you will gain back all the weight – and some.
I see this in individuals as well. They take one workshop on a topic and suddenly they are an expert in that field. Or they fall in love and during their honeymoon phase launch a course about “Finding your Soulmate” – only to consciously uncouple 6 months later.
We are obsessed with the fast fast fast.
I left the most lucrative job I ever had because the company went from 150 employees to 15,000 in one year. Everyone thought I was crazy because I quit the day I got promoted.
And yet, I knew in my gut the boat was sinking and I got out of there just in time. A few years later, I heard they closed their doors.
And, still we continue to skip over the merits of slow, sustainable and organic growth.
One step at a time.
Space to breathe.
Space to receive.
Space to intuit.
In my 5 years of running my business, I’ve grown slowly and steadily.
It hasn’t looked flashy or shiny.
And still, every year we grow.
Every year, we have a few more members in the Embody Family.
Every year, we get a little clearer on the mission of Embody.
Every year, our income is a little more than in previous years.
And most importantly, every year we transform the lives of more people than the year before.
To me, that’s sexy.
Slow and steady wins the race.
Slow and steady also is mindful. And conscious. And we need more of that.
Think about it. If you’re running super fast down the street, you have no time to take in what’s actually happening the world around you.
What does your ecosystem actually need? Your inner ecosystem, your business’ ecosystem and the ecosystem your business resides in.
Hiro Boga writes about this so beautifully.
“Good business understands, in a very pragmatic way, that we are the green branches and breathing leaves of the world tree. Our businesses don’t exist as isolated particles whirling independently in space. They are part of an intricate ecosystem whose every element is essential to the life of the whole.
The well-being of your clients and customers, the health and prosperity of the world, the vibrancy of your business, and your own wholeness and happiness — each of these is as intimately connected as root and trunk and branch and leaf, soil, air, clouds and rain.”
The other piece to keep in mind is trauma!
Between the patriarchy, war and deteriorating mental health, more and more of us are trauma survivors.
This means that our nervous system simply cannot handle too much, too fast.
We must honor our sacred internal ecosystem too.
It may sound really awesome to open your doors and balloon to 6 figures in a year. But with that comes a jolt to your reality and your nervous system and there is a high likelihood that something has to be sacrificed in that – your physical health, your mental health, time with your family, time with God/dess.
The world needs more Sensual, Soulful and Sustainable Business.
(that’s also trauma-sensitive!)
And part of my mission is to help womxn be the driving force of that.
I’ve created an intimate incubator for this in 2020.
The Embody Mentorship.
5 womxn coming together to lay down a foundation of embodiment for their life, their business and their relationships.
2 spots are left.
I would be honored to guide you to your deepest knowing and help you find your unique flavor of sustainable and sexy business.
It’s that time of the year where we begin thinking about the next year and all the goals, lists & plans!
You start to get targeted ads for planners and intricate strategies on how to plan 2020.
If you’re anything like my clients, it starts to kick up all the nagging feelings of “where did this year go?!!?” and “I haven’t accomplished half of what I wanted.”
And so you begin to throw it into the 2020 bucket.
And before you know it, you are feeling stressed & overwhelmed before 2020 has even begun!
I’ve been sharing this with all my clients lately…
Here’s the deal. It doesn’t have to be that hard.
It doesn’t have to be complicated.
And contrary to what we’re taught, it is NOT all up to you.
Life is a co-creative process.
Between you the humble human and a bigger force (call her what you want).
So often, us overachieving, perfectionist rockstars start to presume that it is all up to us. We take on the burden of figuring it all out – as though we are 100% in control.
The sooner you accept that you must surrender to the forces bigger than you, the sooner you can find peace in your heart.
At the same time, you don’t want to just put your hands in the air and say F*ck it. You want to show up to do your part of the work.
I’ve created a simple 4 question framework for your New Year planning – and I’m sharing it with you in hopes that it will ease your mind and create spaciousness in your heart.
The Co-Creation Visioning Plan
What do I trust?
What do I want?
What I will show up for…
What I will surrender to…
Question 1: What do I trust?
Uncertainty is hard. It can kick up all of our triggers and trauma. It can push us past our comfort zone and it can stretch us past our snapping point.
Finding the truths you know…
Finding what you can trust…
What you can lean into…
Somatic Experiencing uses the concept of Resourcing – the practice of inviting your body to attune to any sensations of safety in your environment – as a foundational pillar.
So often we skip over the first step.
What do I know? What can I trust?
I trust the earth under me.
I trust my breath.
I know the sun will rise tomorrow.
I know I’m worthy.
I trust my family and my sisters’ support.
This is key. Sit down and write a laundry list of everything you KNOW to be true.
Question 2: What do I want?
Now that you can feel the stable ground under you, can you stretch your arms to the sky and dream?
What does your heart yearn for?
What do you deeply desire?
What do you want that is hard to admit?
Write it all down. Stream of consciousness.
Allows your fingers to dance on the paper.
Question 3: What will I show up for?
It’s so easy to get extreme. Either showing up 100% in our hustle mode. Sleeves rolled up January 1st and ready to slay.
Or go into total collapse. “I have no idea where to start” so you find yourself procrastinating, pretending you don’t have dreams and watching Netflix instead.
What if you looked at it like yoga. In yoga, there is the idea of just showing up to your mat daily. Get up. Show up. And if you need to lay in child’s pose (resting position) the entire hour, so be it. But you showed up.
Same goes for your work. Block out the time. Allow it to be your metaphorical mat and then show up – while releasing the expectation of having the best practice every day. Sometimes a pleasure practice feels torturous. Sometimes my meditations are filled with to-do lists. It doesn’t matter. Show up.
I will show up every day for my body with 30 minutes of morning movement.
I will show up every day for my divinity with 30 minutes of spiritual practice/nature walk.
I will show up one day a week for my expression by blocking out Mondays to write.
And then, after that surrender!
Crack open a bag of potato chips and watch “Schitt’s Creek.” (Ew! David!)
Question 4: What will I surrender to?
Accepting powerlessness is, in my opinion, the deepest spiritual practice there is.
Part of what has gotten us into trouble on the planet right now is our presumptuousness as a species. We are playing God and think our tech and science can control everything. And yet, we look around and we aren’t better off than we used to be.
Find the work you ARE ready to show up for and then release control and attachment over the rest.
The sun isn’t strategizing how to shine.
The flowers didn’t take a course on how to bloom.
They are following their natural inclinations, their innate codes, the rhythms of nature.
You too are part of nature. Remember that all you need to do is strip away the programming, the stories and the formulas and find your essence and your rhythm.
You will blossom and you will shine.
It’s your nature.
For any Soulful Leaders interested in making 2020 the year they implement this co-creative vision as part of their dream of a Sensual & Sustainable business…
I have two spots left in my Elite Embody Mentorship Program (February – November 2020).
The application deadline is December 11th.
To a sensual, sustainable and sexy AF New Year!