The Call-Out Olympics

The Call-Out Olympics

Right now, the world is being run by a bunch of children.

Everywhere I look, I see triggered children passing laws,
triggered children on their podiums pontificating with the facts-du-jour,
triggered children fighting each other on social media.

I’ve been watching these phenomena for months.

Listen up, kids.

This world is a f*cking mess. And we are not going to dismantle systems and clean up this planet when we are all acting like children. We have serious work to do right now.

Every single system we are trying to dismantle was built on shame, fear and power play.
We cannot dissolve these systems with the SAME energy that they FEED on.

Social change needs our hearts.
Social change needs us to work from a place of love, not fear,
Regulation not trigger,
Compassion not cancel culture.

Social change needs some adults in the room. 

Are you going to be one of them?

If you are convinced you really care, stop messing around on Facebook with your call-out olympics and take some time to feel your breath and your heart.

Your heart… remember that?

Probably not. Because we are all running around trying to solve the world’s biggest problems to the backdrop to the largest collective trauma chapter in this century.
Our nervous systems’ think EVERYONE and EVERYTHING is the enemy.
It’s not rational anymore. It’s what our sympathetic nervous system is there to do. Protect us from danger.
So now everyone is the enemy.
And when our animal bodies are in fight or flight there is no space for curiosity or compassion.

This is not sustainable.

We must believe in each other to make significant strides. We must be on the same team. Fighting each other is doing nothing except leaking everyone’s energy.

We’ve gotten trapped in a dictated formula of how to be a good human which really is seeming more and more like a recipe for shame, a cesspool for re-traumatizing and a toxic potion of performance…

Do you want to be doing ANYTHING from a place of fear, or a place of love?

There is a time and place to wallow,
to allow yourself to feel like shit,
to allow your inner Child to throw a tantrum…

And then there’s a time to bring the adult back online. You can’t have your inner Child running the show. The way to do that is regulation of your nervous system.

What do you need to soothe your inner Child?
So you, the adult leader can come and stand for love?
Not a place of fear. Not a place of trigger. Not a place of dysregulation.
LOVE.

Find your heart, your sovereignty.
Trust your body and your intuition.
And let’s stop f*cking around and fix what’s wrong.

… With heart.

The Macarena is my new North Star

This morning, I received an email that had me bawling my eyes out.

It was of a protest last week where the National Guard danced the “Macarena” thanks to a beautiful heart-based activist named Amisha Harding.

 While watching the video of the protesters and the guards giggling to the “Macarena”, I found myself weeping.

Because dance is healing
Because dance is unifying
And
Because the RIGHT to dance is about the RIGHT to safety, the RIGHT to JOY, the RIGHT to EXPRESS, the RIGHT to EXIST.

Dance is also about bringing us all back into our hearts.

Because right there, for a moment, everything was ok.

And right there, for a moment, everyone stripped away the details and FELT.
Everyone joined together to just BE.

For a moment, we were just SOULS in human bodies.

But the system does not see it that way. The system is rigged. The system is rotten. And the system needs us all to spend a lot more time than we have dismantling it through strategic, consolidated efforts to help our BIPOC feel SAFE so they can dance again.

Dance alone won’t do shit.
Intention alone won’t do shit.
Being in our hearts alone won’t do shit.

We have to roll up our sleeves and get into the systemic roots and pull them out like stubborn weeds.
We have to roll up our sleeves and listen to what is needed to help everyone feel safe to just BE.

And we MUST bring our hearts along.
We must bring the dance along.
We must bring our humanity along.

Because too much head and too little heart is why we ended up here.
Because too much masculine and too little feminine is why we have lost our way.
Because too much strategy and too little feeling is how we end up frozen here.

I am here for the strategy. For the change. For the moment-to-moment hard work.
And I’m bringing along my heart. And my body. And my dance.
Because I’m in this for the long-haul.
And I know I cannot do it without a little “Macarena” as my North Star.

(Thank you Ecstatic dance for that beautiful email.)

Lifting your Spirits with Embody-at-Home: 80’s Edition

I hope you are taking care of your heart and your nervous system during this time.

So much is unfolding… Just a reminder to strive for balance.

Show up for the outside world.
And show up for yourself.
Your body. Your heart. Your needs. Your truth.

Personally, this means I’ve been using more embodiment tools like Embody-at-Home.

To fill my cup, I’ve been going back to simple pleasures like romantic period movies and 80s songs to lift my spirits.

And I’ve created the latest Embody-at-home based on this idea… lifting our spirits.

I’m so excited because this has been in the making for a while…

Embody at Home 80's Edition

Embody-at-Home: The 80s Edition.

Non-stop 80’s goodness.

With covers, remixes and some originals, you will get to dance to Price, Tiffany, Depeche Mode, Roxette, and lots more…

Enjoy.

Being Warriors of Love

Being Warriors of Love

Whether you live in the US or not, I imagine you have been actively following the news on what is currently unfolding in the US. Today’s post primarily addresses these events – but if you’re international or work with any American clients and you’re white/white-passing, this is also for you. Because so much of the developed world suffers from the plague of racism in different ways.

If you are a WOC in this community, I want to apologize for all the ways us white/white-passing folx sat in our privilege and didn’t answer the call.

We let you down. We are deeply sorry.

I want to personally apologize for assuming my monthly donations, watching 13th and occasionally offering a scholarship for WOC was good enough. On some level, I was probably just trying to let myself feel like I did my part. And yet, there is so much more to do. And I will do my best to do more and to get better because this is an active and ongoing journey of dismantling a system that is rotten from the core.

I want to apologize for sometimes assuming that this was not my responsibility because I’m Arab (but white-passing) and because I didn’t grow up in the US, can’t vote and didn’t consume American history books. I run a business in the US. I serve American clients and I consume American products. I cannot pretend this does not involve me.

I have spent most of the weekend reflecting on the most effective way to better myself and rally white-passing folx in the vision (and fight) for more love and more justice in the US and the world.

The reason I do this embodiment work is because this is my form of activism. 

Anyone in the personal transformation space simply SHOULD NOT stay still or silent on this matter.

Activism is about being active.
Being an active creatrix of change. Of social impact… which is what we do in the personal development space.
Actively shift shit.
Sit with our discomfort.
Notice the deeply ingrained subconscious beliefs we don’t realize we have.

(Some of you may not know this, but growing up in the Middle East, I was very deeply immersed in activism. I led a student anti-sectarian movement, was part of an anti-Zionist movement called FIST, ran Jane Goodall’s Beirut Chapter of Roots & Shoots – an environmental club, and got in lots of trouble in my teens for painting and wearing a shirt that said Love is Gender-Blind over a rainbow.)

So it is literally impossible for me to do the work I do today and not bring in the part of me passionate for change.

And I believe embodied humans are the leaders of the future – because we are able to drop into our hearts and our bellies to feel the truth and to alchemize our rage into fierce fire-y energy that shifts the state of things.

The ugly truth is that all of us white/white-passing folx are benefitting from a system and a society that sits on the foundation of racism and colonialism.

“In a racist society, it is not enough to be non-racist, we must be anti-racist.” – Angela Davis.

This is the difference between being passively privileged and actively using our voice.

Protesting, petitioning, changing our consumer habits, reading books & watching shows we would never watch, researching around election-time, donating when you don’t have the money… none of these things are convenient. But when your friend calls you in trouble and in need of your help… it doesn’t matter what is going on for you, you will drop what it is and go help them.

This is the state America is in.

We must drop some previously-scheduled stuff to handle something more urgent.

Our brothers and sisters are suffering. And we have been passive for WAY TOO long.

Our monthly donations are not enough. Reading a book here or there. Not enough. Educating yourself but then not translating into some action. Not enough.

If white/white-passing folx are truly a stand for love, we have to do more.

“In America, there are not two kinds of people, racists and non-racists. There are three kinds of people: those poisoned by racism and actively choosing to spread it; those poisoned by racism and actively trying to detox it; and those poisoned by racism who deny its very existence inside them.” – Glennon Doyle.

Here are some resources I’ve found to be helpful in educating myself and I wanted to share:

1) If you want to take a course: I’m starting this course by Brig Feltus soon. If you are a white-passing healer or coach, this is for you.
2) If you want to listen: Rachel Cargle is awesome. Follow her on IG. She also curated an awesome revolution playlist on spotify of different POC speeches.
3) If you are a white coach & want to take an intro workshop: Trudi LeBron just ran a workshop for coaches that you can purchase the replay of here.
4) Layla Saad has a book you can purchase on PDF called Me and White Supremacy.
5) Here is a great comprehensive list of action steps (from 2017 but still relevant). Just reading through it educated me.
6) In addition to supporting the work of POC through donations and/or purchasing their offerings above, here is a list of organizations you can donate to.

Obviously, there is a lot more… but this is a start.

A reminder that this is not a sprint but rather a marathon. The most effective thing we can do is slowly but steadily get better at being allies. We each will do it our own way. That’s ok. But I beg you to take some time to find your unique way of fighting for love. Fighting for justice. Fighting for the dismantling of a system that is rotten at its core.

Can we make this promise to ourselves? If so, press reply and let me know what small first step you plan to take. Let’s inspire each other into action.

And lastly, I want to leave you with a visual that I came across this week that gave me hope… a line of white womxn using their privilege to be love warriors, to protect black protestors on Thursday in Louisville, Kentucky. Now that’s how we ally…

Standing Together
Does your Spirituality have a To-Do List?

Does your Spirituality have a To-Do List?

As I sat in our backyard a few days ago, watching a hummingbird buzz around the lemon tree while I sipped my coffee, I thought about mornings.

When I first entered the personal development space, I kept hearing so much buzz about morning routines. Wake up at 5am. Take an ice bath. Do 100 sprints. Sit. Meditate. Drink a gallon of green juice. Then do 100 gratitudes while you Wim Hof breathe in the shower. Pop your supplements between each breath.

The pressure to conform to this type of morning got exponentially more intense when I started dating a life coach who was up at 5:30am doing all those things.

I would crawl out of bed at 7:30 already feeling like a failure. The shoulds would haunt me and suddenly my spirituality had an assigned to-do list.

For a while, I tried it. And for a while, I hated it.

Now, I just come back to what always felt the best to me. Sipping my morning coffee in silence.

Spirituality is in the simplicity.

Get real quiet. And just be. Drink in the sounds. Breath in the space. Feel what’s in your heart.

If you can sit with that…
If you can be in that…
If you can savor the simple…

You have figured it out.

The one thing I hope everyone gets out of this tragedy, out of this chaos, and out of this quarantine…

It’s that you don’t really need much.

Just space to be with you. To feel yourself closer each day.

My morning coffees are my ode to life.
It is the sacred silence that I tap into so I can hold steady through the chaos of the rest of the day.

I didn’t learn it in an e-course.
I wasn’t prescribed it in a productivity book.

It’s my time to be with me.
It’s my time to be with Spirit.

It’s my time to appreciate the simple things and remind myself that I need nothing except inner peace.

If we just took one hour each morning to feel, to be and to embody our reality…

Instead of trying to shove DOING into it, I think we’d all be a lot happier.

I know I am.

How have you been doing less but connecting more? Comment and let me know.