We are fed a bunch of lies about Love.
From Disney Princess to Hollywood endings, we are taught that we haven’t succeeded at love until we find a partner who is ready to pay for overpriced roses or say “I Do”.
“Love should be easy.”
“You just know when it’s THE ONE.”
“If you’re with the right person, you will never fight.”
In all the mainstream depictions of love, the story usually ends at the wedding – which is when the real work begins.
At the same time, many of us grew up being modeled incredibly dysfunctional relationships.
Some of us are children of divorced parents.
Some of us are children of parents who stuff down their resentment for each other behind the facade of a successful marriage.
And some of us are children of parents who fought all the f***in’ time.
So while we were fed impossible standards through pop culture, we were living the exact opposite.
We learned that…
“Marriage is the end of your freedom”
“Love never lasts”
“You can’t be yourself in relationship.”
Collectively, we are all in a relationship crisis.
We oscillate between living in the Hollywood narrative and living in the nightmare we grew up with.
But there is another reality.
The place where Love isn’t the solution or the problem.
The place where Love is diligent, devotional, patient.
The place where Love isn’t the big gesture on Valentine’s day but is the work of the moment-to-moment, the day by day.
Lies about Love
